In the spring of 2000, Heather Ingram, a 30-year-old high school teacher in a small town on the coast of British Columbia, was convicted of the sexual exploitation of a minor for having an affair with a 17-year-old student. A straight A student who graduated at the top of her high school class and won the award for top student in the secondary education program at the UnivIn the spring of 2000, Heather Ingram, a 30-year-old high school teacher in a small town on the coast of British Columbia, was convicted of the sexual exploitation of a minor for having an affair with a 17-year-old student. A straight A student who graduated at the top of her high school class and won the award for top student in the secondary education program at the University of British Columbia, Ingram went on to become one of the most popular and highly respected teachers at Chatelech Secondary School in Sechelt, B.C. Trapped in an unhappy relationship that was undermining her self-confidence, Ingram found herself more and more drawn to Troy, a rebellious young student in her accounting class. She describes in unstinting detail how what began as a mild flirtation developed into a powerful attraction and then into a relationship of several years’ duration, which had the full support of Troy’s family. Ingram also describes the pain of going public with the affair, the loss of her job and her status in the community,her trial and conviction, and the ten months she spent under house arrest....
|Title||:||Risking It All: My Student, My Lover, My Story|
|Number of Pages||:||276 Pages|
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Risking It All: My Student, My Lover, My Story Reviews
Eh. I went into this hoping for some insight in her decision and the reasons why she decided to cross the line and develop a sexual relationship with her student. She was unhappy in her long term relationship with her boyfriend and then proceeded to cheat on him with someone who showed her some attention. She admits that really, she had nothing in common with her student except for a sexual attraction. She also makes some choices that were even more questionable, resulting in her losing almost everything and everyone she cared about in her life. The whole read just made me uncomfortable, especially her descriptions of her spending time at parties with her students, trying to experience the teenage years that she missed out on.
If you are a teacher, you should read this book. If you have ever fallen for someone much younger, or thought you could, you should read this book. If you've ever cheated on your significant other, or only thought of it, you should read this book."Death is just around the corner, he whispers, but not morbidly. In my dream this statement sounds like an invitation... Come with me, come experience, come live. Don't wait - it could be gone before you know it."When I started reading this book, I didn't feel connected to Heather, the autobiographer; her life was too perfect, too safe. But her tale was compelling and I regretted the need to put the book down every time. When she started falling for one of her high school students, I could easily see it happening to myself in the same situation. Confident, handsome, self-assured young man, flouting authority, a rebel, the bad boy, making her feel beautiful, attractive, desirable... It's a heady feeling. So easy to get lost in, caught up in the moment... And once the line is crossed, then what?For Heather it was a slippery slope, but perhaps one that led her not only a greater understand of who she was, but also what was *really* important to her. I won't spoil it for anyone wanting to read who doesn't already know the story. Suffice it to say, it was a good book.
Wanted more insight on why this happens! Big disappointment! Though she tries to deliver an honest account of her life, it doesn't seem plausible! I got out of this that she has a hot looking kid in her class that paid her attention while she was second guessing her own adult relationship with her boyfriend. She cheats on and finally dumps boyfriend but why!!! So disappointing that she seemed to know she could lose her job but not realize so inappropriate on many levels! Uhmm teacher/student relation.ship, boundary issues, age/ mature differences, (or lack of as in end found her to be immature) and society expectations! Don't bother reading!
My interest in this is mainly because it takes place in Canada, where law and culture are unique, especially on the west coast. A little overly exhibitionist emotionally, but without that a book length story would not be possible. The main theme eventually becomes the contrast between codependency in the extreme and personal sovereignty as world views.
This was an interesting story. To me it highlights the complexities that can exist in any relation, and which are exacerbated in a relationship not only between a teacher and a student but a 29 year old and a 17 yo.
A super-intriguing but super-disturbing account of the author's affair with her 17-year-old student. Bizarre - she didn't see anything wrong with what she was doing. A fascinating read, but made me want to...take a shower or something. Ugh.
Ingram isn't the best writer, but her memoir makes up for her lack of fluidity with its insightfulness. I was torn between disgust for her actions and empathy. A controversial book. Recommended.